"In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." –John 16:33

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Missing my parent during these peculiar times

I found this picture of my dad (Grandpa Milo) and I while looking for a sibling picture of Kelly and Christian for Kelly to post on Instagram for National Siblings day. I like it a lot. The picture was taken on Grandma Sarah’s 77th birthday on one the last of our several trips as a family to Puerto Vallarta in January of 2008. It is hard to believe that is over 12 years in the past. It is good to remember how fortunate it was to have had a father and mother who truly loved us and did all that was in their power to help us their entire life.

In thinking about the current China virus crisis, it made me consider some of the things Grandpa Milo and Grandma Sarah had to endure in their lifetimes. Just a few of them are the great depression, World War II, polio, the 9/11 bombing, the Cold War, and personal crises that like Grandma Sarah’s almost fatal car wreck and the crib death of their daughter and my little sister, Amy Louise. I am just so grateful for the both of them and cannot wait to see them again in the not too distant future.

National siblings day

I know I should be putting up an image of my siblings who I appreciate greatly. I think I will do that soon even if it is not National Siblings day. I thought I would put up a picture of these two siblings from back in around 2005-2006. They were actually very, very good friends and kind to each other. I get a strong sense of melancholy when I see these photos, but am thankful that they have moved on to new things. I think it is hard to focus on enjoyment of the age you are. The moment I learned that lesson is one of those moments when my life become easier and more enjoyable. It is one of my biggest wishes for all those I love.

lauropedraza.art

My brother-in-law, Tío Lauro, is a painter with a fairly large and growing body of work. He works in oils, acrylics, and etchings. Yesterday, he started up a blog: lauropedraza.art. His plan is not just to put show his art, but also talk about some of his previous works and what he was thinking and doing when created them. In addition to all this, he has in the middle of the creation of a different kind of art, the creation of an atelier that is uniquely his style. That atelier is located right next to Allende, Nuevo Leon, the pastoral and classically Mexican pubelo of his ancestors. He started with a very much rundown, but quite old home in a quiet area close to the river that is not quite in the country, but not really in the city either. The atelier is really taking shape–after getting some basic work and reshaping done on the house itself, he has been working mostly on the gardens for the last little while. I expect to see pictures of the atelier, life in Mexico, food, and music in addition to his always stellar art.

Christian goes to work

Christian has been home with us for the last several weeks, but now it looks like he fleeing the nest. Actually he has been paying his own way since he left for his PhD when he was 18, but now, it feels like he is gone for good. When he was in school, we could squint our eyes and semi-believe he was not gone even though he really was. Now though, he does not really need us hardly at all. We like to think our cheer leading is something (and it probably is), but he is truly on his own and making his own way now.

He is now a scientist in the very best meaning of that word at one of the most prestigious institutions of science in the world. It is, in our humble yet biased, opinion much more that just MIT. It is the part of MIT solely dedicated to research, unencumbered with training new young minds, in the very areas Christian studied. We feel somewhat melancholy, but also grateful and humbled that Christian has made it to this level.

He will leave next week and almost certainly never come back except for visits. That is a good thing, but we are in somewhat of a state of melancholy.

Remembering Albany and remembering Tim

We went to my cousin, Tim Mecum’s memorial service last night. It was amazing. There were 100-150 people in attendance and we got to see a lot of people we had not seen for years. It was a fitting good-bye to a very sweet spirited man who played a significant role in our family when our kids were small. I hope I am remembered as fondly as Tim when my time comes.

We had some time before the service so we drove buy the home in North Albany where we lived for five years and that we remodeled more heavily than any home we have lived in. We were kind of expecting to see something small and run down, but were surprised. We STILL love the house and all the work we did. It was nice to remember some of the goodness we experienced there.

More deer (always a good thing)

There are never too many deer to watch. We had three wander around the house for several hours this morning. Finishing up the contractor part of our bathroom remodels and heading off to a funeral for a few hours. We are saying good-bye to my cousin Tim who played a big role in our little family when the kids were in elementary school

2020 — What to attempt

Everyone is back home from Mexico now. Kelly and I have already started work. Christian is waiting for administrative work to be completed so he can look for an apartment near his new job. Tomorrow, Lorena starts the last class she needs to graduate.

This trip had some challenges, but God has his hand in everything. Those challenges turned into time for discussion and reflection that would not have occurred if everything went smoothly. Out of that reflection and discussion came some ideas to explore about what we should do over the next few years.

The setting in Monterrey was just amazing. There was a very small amount of rain and otherwise spectacular weather. There is no city quite like Monterrey with its multiple mountain ranges around and through the city. The video above shows only a minor piece of the city and some of those mountains.

After several carnes asadas, we did note that it would be very nice to figure out how add a charcoal/mesquite grill to our patio. We are working on that now. There were other, bigger ideas that we are actually working on pretty hard that have to do with our home here in Washington and some possible opportunities in Monterrey and its environs.

Huevos divorciados

Lynn took Conchita, Lorena, and I to breakfast yesterday morning at a “working man’s” restaurant. We all had huevos divorciados. They are like huevos rancheros, but one egg has red salsa and the other egg has green salsa. We are taking our last evening here slowly and fairly quietly–as much as is possible for this family–really not that quiet. Tomorrow morning we have to get up at 4 AM in time to get to the airport in time to fly back to Washington so I can go to work on Thursday morning.

Our time here has been very good for me. I have had time to reflect without a ton of work. I have some hard decisions on what to do next. With only a little over two years until retirement I have a lot of options with not a whole lot of knowledge about where we should be nor what we should be doing. Some new options have opened up to us since we got here and I will be exploring them over the next few weeks.

La Huasteca en Monterrey

Tio Laurin took Lorena, Christian, Tio Lynn, and I to see the Huasteca yesterday. It is a series of rock formations that are both huge and an international rock climbing destination. After visting the Huasteca, we drove out to a location where there is a huge flood control dam. Most of the time, there is no water on either side of the dam, but when the rainy season comes along and under just the right conditions, the water floods over the top of the wall you see to the right. It is an amazing thing to see.

La Quinceañera de Valeria

Last night, the whole family attended the Quinceañera (fifteenth birthday party) of Lorena’s brother Jorge’s daughter, Valeria. There were lots of people there I had not seen for ten years or so and there were lots of people who are now gone that it would have been really nice to see again including Lorena’s father Lauro. It was a nice party with great food and a TON of desserts made by Minita (Lorena’s brother Rigo’s wife). That will be the last of such events until Rigo’s daughter Fanny has her Quinceañera. We hope we can make it to that one, too.

Waiting for Kelly

Last night, we all got together at Tio Rigo’s (second from right) house to wait for Kelly’s arrival from Baltimore. Rigo prepared an amazing carne asada and everyone helped prepare for our niece Valeria’s (the girl in pink at the left) quinceñera which takes place tomorrow. There was lots of music and talking. It takes an even like this to remind me how noisy are these special Mexican events.

Christmas Eve 2019 in Monterrey

Tios Lauro and Tio Lynn and his family spent Christmas Eve with Lorena, Conchita, Christian, and I. Lauro and Lynn, did all the grilling while the rest of us sat around and talked. Christian downloaded some music he wanted to learn and it was just nice to watch him start to work through that. This was as nice a Christmas Eve as I have had for years. The only thing missing was Kelly, but she will be here later today.

27th Wedding Anniversary

Lorena and I enjoyed a quiet evening at home with Kiwi the surviving cat sister on our 27th wedding anniversary. We plan to do something a little more elaborate over the weekend, but it was actually very, very nice just to be together quietly. Lorena made Kung Pao chicken, one of my favorites and we talked about life, were we have been and where we are going.

Lauro, Jr.’s creative projects

I thought this was a nice picture of my brother-in-law, Lauro, the artist. We have several of his pieces in our house and hope to get more. Right now, he is doing something about which I am very envious. He found an old house in a very beautiful setting in the Mexican countryside that is also close to a town with all the services (Internet, grocery shopping, great restaurants, etc.). The house is old (over 100 years) and was in very bad shape when he bought it. He is methodically turning it in to an atelier. He has been taking pictures of the entire process. It will have living space, entertaining space, a modern kitchen, a beautiful fireplace, and other features. When he finishes the building he will attack the grounds. It is really going to be something when he finishes and he designed it all himself.

Mother’s Day no kids

We mostly celebrate Mother’s Day a couple of times every year (last Friday this year). Mother’s Day is always on 10th in Mexico, but always falls on a Sunday in the United States–today this year. Lorena and I celebrated in the middle. We went out for breakfast on Saturday morning, then cooked up some steaks last night. Lorena heard from both the kids yesterday, but they always make the “official” Mother’s Day call after meeting on Sunday. Lorena is a wonderful mother (and wife). We are grateful for her.

Aunt Janet’s funeral

I am going to my mother’s twin sister, Janet’s, funeral today. She was a truly wonderful person with whom I had a very special connections.

McMenamin’s in Kalama

Day 28 of 100 (10.8 of 41 pounds) 26.3%
Lorena and I ran down to the McMenamin’s beside the Columbia River in Kalama on Saturday evening. It is a beautiful facility and we enjoyed ourselves very much. We used to go to the McMenamin’s in Wilsonville once a week when we lived there and liked it a lot. The one here in Centralia is really not so good–too noisy and somehow seems to have a culture difference from the ones in Kalama and Wilsonville. It is an hour drive down to Kalama, so we do not expect we will be doing it so often. We had around 30 20-30 somethings at the house over the weekend for a birthday and going-away party for Kelly. It was wonderful.

Grandma Conchita: 73

It is Conchita’s 73rd birthday. She is Lorena’s mom and my mother-in-law. As I have said previously in this blog, she is the best mother-in-law in all history. She takes my side on virtually everything. She misses Grandpa Lauro a lot, but she is doing very well. We have plans to visit her very soon.

Apathy and malaise in the face of ease

We are now living a life of relative ease. For some reason that makes me uneasy. I have been talking to Kelly about this. It is not that we are depressed or anything, but just not so motivated to do much. Kelly is waiting to start a big new chapter in her life and, in a way, Lorena, Christian, and I are all in that same state. I am close to retirement with lots of interesting opportunities to do side stuff, but not enough to turn that into a real job yet. Christian is a few months away from Graduation as is Lorena. There are lots of things on which we can work, but it is hard to find the motivation. In the mean time, all of us (maybe not Christian) live in nice situations. I think I am going to try to push myself off center and start being motivated again. We will see how that goes.

Moving Kelly’s stuff from Seattle to Centralia

We moved Kelly’s things down to Centralia from Seattle yesterday. The coarse culture and poor planning that are the hallmarks of that city elevated the hassle of the move by a good margin. Nevertheless, we had great help to get the big stuff out of the second floor apartment and into the U-Haul. We got it all unloaded from the truck in about an hour after we got here. It is amazing how much easier it is to move stuff when you do not have to go up or down a narrow set of stairs. Lorena and Kelly made pasta with shrimp and we all went to bed early. Fortunately, when everything settles out, her new company will pay for the move to whatever new digs she finds. That is four or five months from now, so we get to have her here in the state for a little while longer.

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