"In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." –John 16:33

Month: November 2015

Work advise for a homeschool dad

A new guy started work at my day job yesterday. I found out during the interview that he and his wife homeschool four kids, ages 4-11. They use a lot of the same materials we used: Sonlight, Teaching Textbooks, Singapore Math, etc., etc. What made it more interesting was that, after the interview and before he accepted our offer, he wrote me an email to ask if this job was amenable to the homeschool life. I was glad to say that it was. We are engineers so, of course there are hair-on-fire periods of two or three weeks a couple of times per year to hit a schedule or solve a hard problem, but I think that is just the nature of the beast for jobs in general, not just engineering jobs.

My new friend told me his wife does 80 percent of the homeschool work while he fills in the rest. What people do not often understand with homeschooling is that it does not matter which parent does the homeschooling (usually both help, but one–usually the Mom–takes the lead), the other parent has to fill in the cracks with everything else. I managed the homeschooling and most, but certainly not all of the outside work (mowing the lawn, etc.) while Lorena had to handle plenty of things I would normally have done–most of it involving getting in the car to go do something. I often get more credit than I deserve for the work we did in our homeschool.

When Kelly and Christian were his kids ages, I worked at a company that is a competitor to my current employer. I worked a lot longer week at that company than my current one–probably 50+ hours per week on average with three or four weeks per year at 60+ and even 70+ hours. Still, it did not have an inordinate impact on our ability to do homeschool. On the upside with that job, I had about a 12 minute commute. If it would have been even a half an hour each direction, it would have been more difficult to spend the time I needed with the kids. So, I was able to tell my new friend he could homeschool quite well with this job, but his long commute was going to be his biggest burden.

The upshot is that where there is a will there is a way. I am glad my new friend took the job. He is actively looking for a way to move closer to minimize his commute. I think he will do great, both at his new job and in his family’s homeschool.

Betty Blonde #416 – 02/18/2010
Betty Blonde #416
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Riding to Seattle on the train

Kelly and Dad UW November 2015
Lorena and I drove up to Vancouver, Washington after work on Friday to catch a train to Seattle. The train ride was wonderful. It was the first time I was able to go up there, but I hope it will not be the last. Kelly was at a party so we took an Uber ride to her apartment from the train station. That was my first Uber ride. I am never going to take another taxi if I can at all avoid it. It was just unbelievably efficient and convenient. I had no sympathy for the taxi systems in the big cities before Uber. I have less sympathy now.

We got up early, walked to a little hole-in-the-wall restaurant by Kelly’s apartment and had an amazing breakfast. There were a ton of great little restaurants all over the place. We promised Kelly and ourselves we would make our way back up there a lot more often to try out more of them. After breakfast, Kelly and I went to the coffee shop where she does a lot of her studying. I worked and she studied while Lorena ran out and did errands. I got nostalgic for our study at the Hill and Hunt libraries back in Raleigh when the kids were at North Carolina State.

Both the kids are going through a lot of pain in their programs right now. When they set out to do something hard with their schooling ten years ago or so, we knew there would be some rough patches and they are both in what can only be described as a grind. Christian just finished his Quals and has to deliver his first conference paper at an Information Theory conference in Asilomar, California next week. Kelly has her first year paper due in January and her Quals in July. She has some very intense Teaching Assistant and Research Assistant duties on top of it all.

This point of their PhD degree work is nothing more than a horrible grind. They barely have time to sleep because it is just one deadline after another and I think it can be a little daunting and discouraging. They will be at the halfway point soon, so there is light at the end of the tunnel. One of the things I have to remind them is that the point of all this work is to give them the skills and credentials to get a good job. That is all. It is not necessary to even stay in the field they studied. When this is done, they have something real they can use to get a good job, but it should not define their life. Too many people get their degree and think it somehow entitles them to unwarranted and unrealistic levels of respect and success. It does not. Life is just getting started when school ends.

Betty Blonde #415 – 02/7/2010
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