I had occassion to read this article titled “Don’t date a girl who travels.” It talks about the type of woman who is solely devoted to her own pleasure to the exclusion of everyone and everything else. Her life is all about her. She wants this. She wants that. You are boring. The money about always going where she wants, when she wants, doing what she wants, in the end, makes for a wasted life.
Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.
Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.
In their travels, many of these people do not have a high enough level of education nor literacy to understand what they were seeing because they are too busy thinking about where they want to be or what they want to be doing rather than productively learning something or working in a way that benefits society. Sadly, their curiosity generally extends to what they learn “in the moment” so they know little or nothing about the places they visit.
I have traveled a lot to places like Taiwan, Korean, Japan, Mexico, Malaysia, Singapore, Hong Kong, England, Czech Republic, Israel, etc. The reason I have had time and opportunity to travel was not because I spent all my time and resources on myself. Rather it was because I was willing to forgo doing the “fun” stuff like being a dive instructor or yoga teacher (as if yoga were fun or interesting). I got to travel because of hard work at school in a hard degree and a steady job so I could contribute productively to society. My company sent me, sometimes along with friends or family to all these places.
This is one of those things about which we warned our children. Cheap and easy is not even gratifying in the short term. Think of a life lived like that and how it culminates in little worth having. People are more important, interesting, and gratifying than places. Those who are dedicated solely to their own fulfillment and “things” like travel are destined to live boring lives.
