Day 486 of 1000
My parents are getting older. Lately, my brother, sisters, and I have worked hard on getting Dad and Mom out of their rented house into assisted living. Mom has fairly normal old age dementia. Dad, on the other hand, has a fairly odd malady. It was odd enough that his neurologist has asked that he donate his brain to OHSU for further study after he is gone. At first they thought it was Alzheimer’s disease. After that, they thought it was Frontal Lobe Temporal Dementia (FTD). The PET scan showed that it was both and neither. His brain scan manifests something that is somewhat less than Alzheimer’s and something less than FTD. But the both of them together are something that is fairly rare. That is pretty much the story of Dad’s life. Both Dad and Mom have long term memories that are intact. In light of that diagnosis, I have decided to try to do some interviews to document their amazing lives.
Mom is one of the first women to graduate with a four year degree in pharmacy from Oregon State University. There was one woman in the year before her and she graduated with one other woman. There were other women who graduated before that, but that was well before her time when pharmacy was a two year program. She worked with one or two women who graduated from the two year program at OSU as early as 1917. It will be fun to interview her about her memories of these topics. In additon to that, she attended OSU with the first black man that graduated that ever graduated from there with a pharmacy degree.
For his part, Dad had a wildly improbable life. He saw the first two hydrogen bombs go off when he was a cook on Eniwetok in the army. He is journey to that position is a story onto itself. Before that, as a five or six year old child, he traveled to Portland on a bus on his own so the Dornbecker hospital could operate on a growth on his throat. He was the prime mover in a business that grew to be the largest producers of doll house kits in the world, selling to store chains such as Walmart, Home Depot, Sears, Lowes, and many others.
I hope to be able to get some interesting interviews on these topics as well as their upbringing in rural Oregon. They are a product of the logging/sawmill culture that is truly unique to Oregon. I am very much looking forward to these interviews and hope that time and health permits me to do this work over the coming few years. I took a new job specifically to be able to spend time in Oregon with my parent for this purpose. If they are willing and have the time, my siblings might add a guest post to this effort as they have made the effort to get a scanner to accumulate old photos and have memories of their own.
Therein kinman
I cannot even begin to express the love I have for your parents. They have shown so much love and kindness to our family. They are wonderful, very special people. Thank you for their stories.
Dad
Thank you so much for this comment Therein. The Kinmans are very, very special to all of all of us. We very much appreciate the kinship your family has shared with us over so many generations. Dad and Mom have always counted all of you as family.
Zona Padilla Davis
Ken, thank-you so much for this. I am so happy to be able to follow this. I love them both so much!
Lee and Shirley Fiegi
Hi Ken! We are very happy to have your parents in our Bible study now! They are a wonderful addition to our group. Looking forward to reading your posts about their interesting experiences.
Dad
Thank you Zona, we very much appreciate our friends in Portland who care about Dad and Mom. It makes it so much easier for Dad and Mom having a hope beyond their current circumstances and friends who love them.
Dad
Lee and Shirley–We are so glad Dad and Mom go to a meeting where they have people they have known for years. I a looking forward to start writing some of these things down. I will try to do my first interview when I am out in Oregon in mid to late January.
Anonymous
Ken, I am so glad that you are taking the time to write things about your parents. It will make your times together so special and you will remember what they shared until your old age. I had my folks talk on a tape so I have their voices as well. I didn’t do enough but I love what I have of course. That is an interesting diagnosis for your Dad. I was wondering at what stage he is now? Can he drive or live alone or needs help all the time? Love to see you when you are here in January. Love you!
JoAnn Waldo
Ken, I am so glad that you are going to learn more of your parents life stories and share them. It will be such a wonderful time with your parents. I had my parents share on a tape their life stories. It wasn’t all I needed but I do have their voices which I love. An interesting diagnosis for your Dad. What stage is he right now? Can he still drive, live alone and do things for himself? Will be thinking of you until you can be here Ken. Love, JoAnn
Dad
Thanks for the nice note. We are going to do the best we can with getting some stuff taken down, but Dad’s condition does not lend itself to a long attention span. Neither of them can drive now and they both need quite a bit of assistance with taking medications. Dad also has a tendency to get lost now, too, so it is getting more challenging for them. I would love to see you in January, but I could not figure out who wrote the nice comment!?
JoAnn Waldo
Ken, I wrote both of the last 2 comments but since I didn’t put my name on the first one I didn’t think it was sent 🙂 So i wrote #2 but forgot to say we would love to see you! My life is so confusing!
Jon
Ken, that’s a fantastic idea. Some of us wish we’d done something like that. We have some great memories of many things too, but we’ll have to depend on our memories for our memories. We’ll see how long THAT lasts. :-/ Great the P’cott job contributed (in)directly to your being able to spend more time with them.
Lauro Pedraza Jr.
Muchas gracias por compartir esto con nosotros Ken!,
Tu y Lorena saben cuanto apreciamos a tus papás, somos muy afortunados de conocerles. Por favor cuando hables con ellos dales un fuerte abrazo de nuestra parte. Deseamos todo lo mejor para ellos y ustedes. Lauro y Dayana, Familia Pedraza Rodríguez.
Dad
Thanks all of you for your kind comments. I am very much looking forward to doing this and hope I am not too late to get anything of significance. Right now, it sounds like they have access to all of their long term memory, so I think I can get some great stuff. Because I will not be there very often, it will be great to co-opt my siblings and others to do ask questions.